bakwaaas:

hard pill to swallow: the idea that your ‘soulmate’ or ‘the one’ will know exactly how to make you happy without you ever having to communicate is fake. the fantasy that you will have all your needs met in a relationship without ever having to be vulnerable is fundamentally not true. sometimes you have to express your needs and desires, you have to ask for things, you have to communicate how you want to be loved, it’s uncomfortable and clumsy but relationships are about learning to love each other not being a mind reader

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pigmenting:

i love the part of growth that allows you to look back on a previous period of your life and recognize that parts of it were unhealthy. something that felt so normal wasn’t in hindsight. you’re not supposed to feel that tired all the time. you’re not supposed to be treated like that.

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sugarcoatednightshade:

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HOT TIP!!!

You will drink more water if it tastes good. I’m dead serious. Throw some mint in there, throw some lemon or strawberry or a little flavor packet. Your brain likes things that taste good.

You know why people like lemonade? Flavored water

You know why people like tea? Flavored water

You know why people like koolaid? Flavored water

People like flavored water. Brains like flavored water. It’s like being forced to choose between a rock or a rock with glitter on it. You want the glitter rock

I am once again telling you to drink water

And to absolutely FUCK OFF if you’re going to be a dick on this post

Putting stuff in your water still counts as drinking water! Adults have been lying to you! It still counts and if that’s what it takes for you to stay hydrated it’s worth it!

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thoradvice:

you can fall in love at 30. you can discover your true passion at 40. you can go back to school at 50. you can learn to draw, or paint, or sing at 60. relax. just because you didn’t do most, or any, of the things considered “young adult milestones” doesn’t mean you never will. there’s no time limit on happiness.

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aidashakur:

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mockiatoh:

mockiatoh:

mockiatoh:

You can’t deserve a person’s love. You’ll drive yourself crazy thinking like that. They either love you, or they don’t. That doesn’t mean you weren’t good enough for them to love you, because love isn’t something you earn by being good enough. It isn’t something that can be quantified or doled out. Don’t blame yourself for not being loved how you need to, just teach yourself how to look for love where love lives.

This isn’t just about romantic love, or even skewed towards romantic love, although it does apply there too. One of the hardest things I’ve ever had to accept is that my mother simply wasn’t someone who was capable of loving me, and there is no version of me that I could have ever been that would have earned that love. But with acceptance came healing. I was able to love myself more instead of resenting myself for not being more than any one person could be.

Are you listening? Even love for yourself isn’t earned. It is a kindness you give yourself.

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luneloving:

how you program your mind when you’re at a low point is so impactful. resorting back to toxic patterns when you’re low is only strengthening those neural pathways and programming your mind to make those unhealthy choices or think those unhealthy thoughts every time you’re not feeling well. alternatively, trying your hardest to cope in a healthier way every time you’re feeling bad will strengthen those positive neural pathways, and as time goes on, it will become easier to make healthy choices and say no to toxic patterns. this of course isn’t to say that you should feel guilty if you relapse, it is not by any means easy to reprogram your brain and sometimes we relapse and that’s okay, so long as we’re trying our best to treat ourselves better.

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podencos:

Whenever I see people afraid of crossing the 25 year mark in their lives I want to tell them to cancel their subscription to societal expectations and start befriending actual old(er) people. Then you’ll realize how fortunate you are to be growing w time, how much life is surrounding you, waiting for you to do whatever you want w it

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im-in-way-2many-fandoms:

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thatpettyblackgirl:

portraitoftheoddity:

^ From a therapist-friend, in case any in-therapy-friends ever worry about this. 

And this is because it would be really shit of them to open up your entire brain into hysterical Upset and then boot you out without helping you find equilibrium, but there is probably someone right after you. Just to fully articulate.

Yeah exactly. When I do therapy I always keep an eye on the clock so I know when I have enough time to keep opening up big issues, vs. when I have to work on getting them back to stable so they don’t leave my office and walk straight into a wall.

Thank fucking God holy shit

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prismatic-bell:

caffeinatedcatholic:

perpetual-allegory:

I kind of wish that the idea that you can just be was a little more mainstream.

Like, having drive and ambition is great. But it gets drilled in kids’ heads that there is some pressure to constantly be looking for the next move up, to be bigger than life. It wears you down to never be satisfied.

Not everyone is destined for greatness. It just doesn’t suit some people.

There’s nothing wrong with having a quiet life, making enough to get by, having a small apartment where you’re comfortable, and just living. You don’t have to constantly be looking to go onward and upwards. Sometimes the best thing you can do for yourself is to just be.

“It is no bad thing to celebrate a simple life.” -J.R.R. Tolkien

You know what? I reblogged this without comment, but I’m gonna add one.

This is the eulogy I wrote for my grandfather.

Read it over, because he was a good man. And ask yourself if this is such a terrible legacy to have.

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hyrude:

STOP! are you operating on an arbitrary set of terms and rules known only to you? have you created an ultimatum or specific if/then scenario for someone else without communicating it to them? have you considered making a decision and calculated all the consequences and potential reactions to those consequences and consequences for those reactions before you actually made the decision? it may be time to say some words out loud to another person!

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